Trap #14: Not being ready to make the decision

Human beings are in a continual state of becoming.  We are always moving from one state of mind and body to the next.  Accept that you might need to grow more before you are ready to make your decision.

For many, if not most, people the right alternative to decide on is an open-ended one; one that allows for further growth until you are ready to make your firm decision.  Allow your alternatives to lead you further down your road of mental or physical development.

Be careful about firmly stating that you or the world is so and so. Be careful with committing
yourself to anything at this stage.

Modern medicine has improved enormously during the last century.  If you are reading this now you can expect to get well into your 80s and 90s, and to be healthy in your ripe age.  This was not always so.

In generations past, people seldom lived more than in the 50s or 60s, and they were usually sick late in life.  This expansion of life has allowed us to extend the periods of our life.  We can be children longer (unfortunately children today are under pressure to get into young adults way too soon; let’s allow them to be children longer), we can be young adults longer, and we can be young longer.

It is not uncommon to see people in their 50s appearing young in every way with tight jeans and a t-shirt.  That would have been unthinkable a few generations back.  This longevity also allows us to be seekers of our life plan for longer.  Before, people settled into a profession, married life and a life plan at the ripe age of around 18-23.

Today it is common to have people seeking career counseling in their 40s and 50s.  Isn’t that great?  So if you feel you need to, allow yourself to spend some extra time figuring out what you want to do.  You can build this extra time into the life plan you decide on “I will travel for six months first.”

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Allowing Ourselves to Ask the Question

Table of Contents

I. Chapter One: Introduction to Life Planning

II. Chapter Two: Your Past

III. Chapter Three: The Influence Of Generations

IV. Chapter Four: Your Present

V. Chapter Five: Your Future

VI. Chapter Six: Your Alternatives

VII. Chapter Seven: Making The Decision

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