“Where” is your answer to “Where do I live?”

We all need a place to call home — a place where we can relate to and a place where we live.  This will be the place where we come back to rest, and the place where we keep our belongings.  It will also be the common ground we share with some of the important people in our life, and the address where people know they can reach us.

In your life plan, you will need to define a specific place to call home.  The place you call home will be your physical anchor point.  It is the place where you wake up and the place you come back to for rest.  If you do not have a clear sense of where you want to call home, you do not have clarity in your life plan.

During a conversation I had about life planning with psychologist Nathaniel Branden, he looked me straight in the eye and asked, “Where do you want to live?”

Since my alternatives at the time were based in different locations, my answer to this question automatically revealed the firmness of my life plan.  My answer to Branden was, “New York City.”

It is interesting to note that, after having contemplated this alternative more, I have come to realize that this is not what I want after all.  But it was the explicit expression of the specific location that led me into the awareness that this was not my desire after all.

It is always helpful to state your chosen alternative to someone before you actually commit to it. Getting your choices out in the open can help bring out aspects of your alternatives that you have not thought about.

Most likely, you will define “where” as some of the places you have lived already or that you have visited.  You want to describe a geographical location like a city or a state.  Then you want to describe, in as much detail as possible, the exact location.

You want to describe the rooms, the views, the smell, and the atmosphere.  Imagine the texture of your linens in your bed when you wake up in the morning; imagine the sound of the birds outside as you sit alone and rest peacefully in your own company.

List at least a few places you would want to live.  If you find this question difficult, rephrase it to “some places I would not mind living.”  Be creative.
Also list the places where you don’t want to live.  Again, be brief and don’t dwell much on the negative side.

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Allowing Ourselves to Ask the Question

Table of Contents

I. Chapter One: Introduction to Life Planning

II. Chapter Two: Your Past

III. Chapter Three: The Influence Of Generations

IV. Chapter Four: Your Present

V. Chapter Five: Your Future

VI. Chapter Six: Your Alternatives

VII. Chapter Seven: Making The Decision

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