Moving Forward

So far we have worked on who you have become.  The exercises helped you identify the explicit ideas and thoughts you have about yourself and the world.  The more explicit you can become about your own ideas, about yourself, and about the world, the better you are positioned to make an evaluation of where you are.  You can then incorporate this into your life plan.

No one has a perfect understanding of himself or herself or of the world.  Ideally you will be able to identify where you might need to improve or change.  For example, if you had been a white person in South Africa 20 years ago you would have though that Apartheid was right, when in fact it is wrong.  And had you lived 600 years ago you might have believed that the world was flat.

In some respect, we are still just entering the age of the enlightenment.  In a private conversation I had with explorer Thor Heyerdahl he told me, “We are still in the middle ages.”  That is, we all hold old ideas that are irrational and wrong.  I know I do.

If we can identify them, we can do something about them and improve.  Some of the wrongs I have realized in myself during the last few years have been:

•  Thinking that I need certain outer circumstances to be happy.
•  Thinking that I had to make money first and then tend to my happiness.
•  Thinking that milk and other lactose products regularly in my diet were all good, while I am now convinced they are not.
•  Thinking that peace in the world could be accomplished by means of agreement instead of insisting on the truth.

“We are still in the middle ages.”
– Explorer Thor Heyerdahl in conversation with Hans Glint


Up to this point, we have focused so heavily on your thoughts because you need this information to make good alternatives for yourself.  To be able to arrive at a good life plan decision you need to:

•  Have a high level of awareness about yourself and your life.
•  Have a good, rational, and coherent understanding about how the world works.
•  Have a philosophy of life that allows you to integrate new thoughts and ideas into your understanding of the world in a rational way.
•  Have a high level of self-esteem.  You will need to believe that you deserve and are worthy of a good life.  If you do not have a high level of self-esteem, you might make life plan decisions that do not give you the quality of life that you deserve.

If you are unsure of any of the points listed above, then this is where you have to begin to work on your life plan. You can do this in two ways:

1. You can use your current circumstances to work on increasing your level of awareness and understanding about yourself and the world until you are ready to make a decision on a life plan.

2. You can incorporate and integrate growth in awareness and understanding about yourself and the world in your life plan.  This might mean that your life plan decision will have the form of a dynamic goal in order to be more flexible and more adaptable to change as you move up in your understanding of yourself and the world.

You do not have to have an extremely high or near perfect level of awareness and understanding to make a life plan decision.  But to make a firm decision – one that is likely to be right and that you will be able to live with – you need to have a high level of awareness and understanding.

In the next chapter we are going to get explicit about the Who, Where, Why, What, How, and When in our life. We will get very concrete and precise about our alternatives.  This is the most exciting part. Now your future is getting real.

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Table of Contents

I. Chapter One: Introduction to Life Planning

II. Chapter Two: Your Past

III. Chapter Three: The Influence Of Generations

IV. Chapter Four: Your Present

V. Chapter Five: Your Future

VI. Chapter Six: Your Alternatives

VII. Chapter Seven: Making The Decision

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