You likely want to maximize the pleasure you are getting.  To do so, you can use your time and attention in different ways to get the pleasure you desire.  For example, instead of buying a new car, maybe you can allow yourself to go on vacation multiple times during the next few years.

Maybe the pleasure of the vacations will be more than the pleasure of buying the car.  After all, the pleasure of owning a new car will wear off fast, while the pleasure of the vacations and looking forward to the next might not wear off as quickly.

You need to consciously do this sort of prioritization yourself, because everyone else is constantly telling you how to prioritize.  In fact, messages where others tell a person what to do take up a large part of most people’s lives. Since no one makes any money by telling you to go for a walk in the park, you’re likely not to hear that message too often.  Yet you know that the best things in life are often free.

You want to put a lot of counterweight on the external and often commercial messages that are telling you what to do.  Doing so requires you to be highly aware of who you are, what you want, what gives you pleasure, and how you can get it.

If you watch TV for any length of time, you are exposed to numerous messages telling you to seek pleasure in buying the advertiser’s products.  But how much time do you spend daily to contemplate on your life about what is meaningful and important to you?  How much pleasure do you use to counter the influences thrown at you on a daily basis?

In addition to advertisers, you also get pressure from other sources, including the government, your employer, your family, and your friends.  All these sources combined create a lot of stress in your life.

To a large degree, stress happens when you’re out of focus with the pressures in your life or when you don’t see any way to get your life back in sync again.  The stress people have today is mainly because there are so many people putting pressure on them.  It is hard for individuals to put in the counter-pressure needed to live a balanced and comfortable life.  The key to assembling the counter-pressure is to have balance in your life.

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Allowing Ourselves to Ask the Question

Table of Contents

I. Chapter One: Introduction to Life Planning

II. Chapter Two: Your Past

III. Chapter Three: The Influence Of Generations

IV. Chapter Four: Your Present

V. Chapter Five: Your Future

VI. Chapter Six: Your Alternatives

VII. Chapter Seven: Making The Decision

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