The Default Alternative – Path of Least Resistance:

Q: Who will I share my life with?
A: I will share my life with whoever happens to be around.

Q: Where will I live?
A: I will keep living where I live now or wherever life tosses me.

Q: Why will I do the things I will do?
A: To get by, day by day.

Q: What will I do?
A: I will keep doing what I do now or whatever life hands me.

Q: What will I give?
A: Giving?  Hey, don’t tell me about giving.  I am concerned with the getting!

Q: What are my goals?
A: To get by, day by day.  If I do have any others, they are other people’s goals.

Q: What will be my obituary/legacy?
A: Life came and went, with some time in-between.  Nothing much exciting really happened.

Q: How will you live your life?
A: Hey, I only know how to ____________.

Q: How are you going to do it?
A: It will work itself out.

Q: When will I do all this?
A: For the rest of my life.

Do not settle for the default alternative.  Get some leverage to avoiding this alternative by briefly imagining your life ending up as this alternative.  Feel the pain of knowing your life could have been so much, but that you never took control.  If you can imagine the pain of ending up with this alternative, you will have the determination to do something about it.  You are empowered to formulate, and decide on your own life plan.

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Table of Contents

I. Chapter One: Introduction to Life Planning

II. Chapter Two: Your Past

III. Chapter Three: The Influence Of Generations

IV. Chapter Four: Your Present

V. Chapter Five: Your Future

VI. Chapter Six: Your Alternatives

VII. Chapter Seven: Making The Decision

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