How This Book Came into Being

Like me, when you were young, you wondered how people view their lives, how they plan their lives, and how they achieve success with their plans.  For as long as I can remember, I have asked people about their lives.  I was always curious to learn their perspectives.

For some reason, this questioning became an obsession for me.  As I look back, I think the main reason why I did it was because of the pain I felt after my parents divorced.  I became obsessed with not making the same mistakes my parents did.

As I got older, I was able to search for material on life planning in a systematic manner.  I was convinced that the material I needed was somewhere “out there.”

I studied for six years at three different universities.  I took classes in philosophy, business, law, and other topics. I read hundreds of books and articles.  I interviewed hundreds of people.  I visited dozens of different political parties and belief groups.  I lived and worked in four countries in three continents   I traveled around the globe in my twenties, ever searching for good life planning material so I could decide what I wanted to do with my life.

To some extent, I found some of the material in the many coaching and motivational books that exist.  But it was scattered, so I only found some pieces here and there.

The most common approaches I found to life planning are the “indirect” approaches that society has created. These approaches are built into institutions like professional roles (I am a professor, a banker, a farmer), social roles (I am a mother, a father, I am married), political or religious convictions (I am a nun, a priest, a believer) and the like.

Here the institutions define a life plan for you.  Unfortunately, these institutions are as limiting as they are defining. This is because very few institutions are open to all the possibilities we have today.

Even though some of the material I uncovered was good, it did not address the issues that we are really after. Most of the teachings are built on the formula: “You have to know what you want and then go for it, and here is how you go for it!”

That’s great, but our problem is that we don’t know what we “want.”  We don’t know what “it” to go for.  How do you figure that out?  How do you figure out what you want to do with your life?  How do you figure out what to do?

During my research, I did find some techniques, such as writing our own legacy.  The good thing with this technique is that it changes your perspective.  It makes you look at your life from a perspective of after having lived it fully.  Changing the perspective increases your level of awareness about your life.  It makes you understand yourself on a deeper level, and this is the key.  The more we increase our awareness about our life, the better we are able to handle it.

For my own sake, I started compiling and synthesizing the best models and the best techniques I found.  As I always do when I begin a new company or project, I systematically put the ideas into binders while making notes all the time.  I have filled dozens of binders in the last few years.

As I kept working on it, I saw the system emerge.  And it is this system that I wish to share with you in this book.

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Table of Contents

I. Chapter One: Introduction to Life Planning

II. Chapter Two: Your Past

III. Chapter Three: The Influence Of Generations

IV. Chapter Four: Your Present

V. Chapter Five: Your Future

VI. Chapter Six: Your Alternatives

VII. Chapter Seven: Making The Decision

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